Help! I need some serious relationship advice pronto!?

allix88 · #1 (**permalink**) 12-18-2008, 02:47 PM

My boyfriend and I have been together for over three years. Our relationship has been so wonderful this whole time and have never had any serious problems. We've never cheated or had a bad arguement and it's been really great. Plus, the sex is great! We started living together a year ago and of course that costed us a few more arguements here and there, but nothing serious. The only problem is I am constantly worrying if we are truly in love and if we were really meant for eachother...I can't stop worring about it! I ask him if he's sure about me and he tells me all the time he couldn't ask for a better girlfriend. I feel terrible because I'm not so sure. What's your advice?

rockabillymonkey · #2 (**permalink**) 12-19-2008, 01:22 AM

Don't get married if you're not sure, but there's no hurt in living with him to see if you are. Give it some time... You'll eventually figure it out. There's no need that you have to know right now.

r_rosadojr · #3 (**permalink**) 12-24-2008, 01:06 AM

There is a saying ,let it go, if it comes back to you then it was meant to be , if it dont return then it wasnt meant to be

Free Medical Help · #4 (**permalink**) 12-26-2008, 01:25 AM

Relax and don't question or tempt fate!If you spend less time worrying and more time on keeping your relationship alive, you should have nothing to worry about.

rach :) · #5 (**permalink**) 01-02-2009, 07:48 PM

Did you date a lot of guys before you met him? If you haven't that might be why you're unsure. If you didn't date a lot of other guys before him, then you wouldn't really know your solid answer as to every little thing you want in a guy. But if you have dated many before him, maybe you are just having doubts because you have been together so long and things are so great. It's almost like it's too good to be true and so that causes you to have doubts. When it seems like the majority of couples have arguments and everything, it's difficult to look at your own relationship and see how practically perfect it is and wonder how you're both in love with each other, too. Whenever you start to doubt it, just think about how much you love him. Or.. I know this is hard to do.. but imagine your life without him. If the thought of that just tears your heart apart, then trust me, you don't need a reason to have any doubts.

yellowcoatscareme · #6 (**permalink**) 01-03-2009, 07:07 AM

wellll....this happend to my co-worker: She was dating this guy for 4 or 5 years and things were good for about 3 or 4 years, but then they stared aruging, which is different from your situation, but she questioned the relationship for several months and STILL moved in w/ him! and THEN he proposed to her, and she said yes, but STILL questioned their relationshiop. FINALLY after moving in together and being engaged, she dumped him because seh realize that she kept questioning their relatonsip. NOW, she misses him, but who wouldnt miss someone after that amount of time, nonetheless, she is enjoying her life..dating and allshe could've have made the BIGGEST mistake of her life, but at least she stopped torturing her boyfriend with her doubt: now, she will either get back with him (if he would have her )or continue dating. either which way, life move onsooo, just make a decision and stick w/ it: either stay w/ himand decide to really BE in your relationship or dump him and see what else is out there, but DONT sit there and plague him w/ your doubts, it will only make him feel like shit