How do I startover with a new relationship forgetting my past one?

dreamingallthetime · #1 (**permalink**) 12-20-2008, 05:58 PM

I am 24 and I've had a relationship with a girl for last 5 years which I broke up a few months back. I got pretty depressed after the break up, she was very much part of my life. Now that I'm single again, I am lacking the desire to start a new relationship. I do not feel like engaging with a conversation with any girl for longer time than a couple of minutes. I step back from every girl who likes to get along with me. I really want to forget the previous relationship but am not able to. Should or shouldn't I tell about my previous relationship with my new acquaintances? How do I forget about my previous relationship to start over with my life again?

jjsanjoseca · #2 (**permalink**) 12-25-2008, 04:27 AM

You have to accept that it's over... which is the harderst part. Excercise even if you don't need to. Be single and don't jump into another relationship. But.. i'm also a firm believer in rebound, if it helps you stop thinking about someone. Don't bring up the past girl with a new girl until you find someone you really like, and the only reason you are bringing up the old girl is to tell the new girl how happy you are that you found someone better.good luck... i've been there.=)

Edward W · #3 (**permalink**) 01-09-2009, 10:40 AM

jumping into another relationship right now is not going to ease the pain of the last, you need time to heal. my boy it's all about you now enjoy it.

CHRISTINA R · #4 (**permalink**) 01-14-2009, 04:36 PM

you don't want to tell a girl you just meet right off the bat how depressed you are over another girl.you will make her think you are using her as a rebound girl.its going to take a while to get over a relationship that lasted that long.its hard and you will go through ups and downs.don't let it get in the way.

care · #5 (**permalink**) 02-20-2009, 01:44 PM

It takes time. We've all had our hearts broken just let it heal before you start dating again. It is only fair for the new girl in your life, then she can have your complete attention.

B S · #6 (**permalink**) 02-26-2009, 11:10 PM

well after being with someone for so long it is hard to move on after a brake up. If you were truly in love with her it will be even harder. the first thing that you haveto do before you can move on is make sure you have that relationship in the past. if it isnt in the past it will keep haunting your future. Then you have to find some way to keep your mind off of her and in enoph time you will be able to move on!! BEST OF LUCK TO YOU!!