Relationship Advice Needed?

Ok here is my situation. I have been with Jen for a little over 4 years now and engaged for two. She just told me last night that we need to break up. The reason for the breakup is me. I am a smoker and she WILL NOT be with a smoker. She has told me this from day 1 and I was completely aware of how she felt. I told her that I would quit. I did fairly well the first time I quit but failed and started to smoke again. She then found an ashtray in my apartment and was going to break up with me this was about a year an a half into the relationship. She gave me another chance. I did quit however started smoking once again. I was then caught again on 2 more occasions with I gave her my word that it was the last time. Well it wasn't I started again. Let me say that I tried SO hard and somehow always failed. As you can guess she has noticed that I have been smoking again lately and as left me this time. She says that she can't trust me, has lost respect for me, and is no longer attracted to me. Here is the problem I Love this woman more that anything in the world and would do anything for her. I KNOW that i will never smoke again. This has been a life altering experience for me. I want this woman in my life so bad. I WILL NOT let myself go back. She however does not believe me and I honestly cannot blame her. She has agreed to maybe try and work things out. We are going to see each other on mondays for dinner and go to a counseler in 3 weeks. We are supose to go to hawaii on the 26th of September for her birthday so it gives us a month. Does anybody have any advice for me? Did I really blow it? Can this relationship be saved? She does say that she still loves me. Any advice will be appreceated.

I am sure that she loves you because she knows it isn't healthy for you or her. She is probably thinking in future terms of children and so on. If she caught you lying then that is where trust comes in. A smoker can never lie. Can never cover the cough or the smell. She should have known going into it but making promises that you can't keep can really hurt someone. When it is a habit, you will have to use the patch to ween yourself off the awful chemicals that are in those coffin nails.