New relationship, old question about love?

Not S · #1 (**permalink**) 12-27-2008, 06:28 AM

I was in a two year relationship, very much in love with the girl, bad last month of it, slowly fell out love after being hurt by her, we broke up. Then 3 months later i started going out with a great girl, its been a month since we started going out. I feel that i love her, but I dont know if its too early or if she feels the same.... any ideas?Thanks Rachel

beamer · #2 (**permalink**) 01-08-2009, 07:08 AM

Don't rush it and it's way to early to say those words (I Love You). Maybe you need to just chill and try to get to know her before you say those words. You sound rather young and you will better understand when you get a little older. Good luck to you both!

cyh of 3 · #3 (**permalink**) 02-06-2009, 10:16 AM

my suggestion would be to keep it simple for a bit that first few weeks can feel like love but most of the time it is all infatuation of the new i would hate to see anyone hurt in the matter if it is all that then it will happen naturally you won't need to ask this question it will come in time don't feel like you have to tell her that when it is time it will happen without you even thinking about it if it is realgood luck god bless

Rachel · #4 (**permalink**) 02-13-2009, 03:24 PM

Well, in a way it sounds like your trying to recover what you lost. You obviously had a great thing going with your ex and it some how fell apart. I was in the same situation about a year ago. I joined the military and got stationed a few states away. It was a hard couple years but I never stopped loving him. One day things changed and it had to end. I am in a new relationship with wonderful person and I truly understand how you feel. I was very used to and comfortable with what I had. Thats what I knew!!!1 month, thats up to the both of you. No body can really answer that except you. If you truly feel that way then yes you do love her. As long as you can accept the fact that she might say"Well, I haven't gotten to that point"or"I think its early to say that, we've only been together a month."You gotta respect it buddy.No harm in asking, the worst she could say is not yet. You haven't told her yet that you do, so you'll know and learn your boundaries.I hope I helped ya in some way.Good luck