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I'm 16 and my parents are divorced because my father is a major player, he cheated on my mother with multiple women and even when I spend the weekend with him (I live with my mother), he brings random women home and I can hear them having sex (disgusting).
The other day he found out condoms near my stuff in the bathroom and asked me if I was having sex with my boyfriend. I told him straight that I was and he told me to be careful, to always wear protection, that I was a bit too young to be having sex.
I mean what an hypocrite he is! He just wants women as objects for sex and now he is giving me advice on this??! He says that he knows how nasty guys can be when they are teenagers and I told him to look at himself, he was no one to speak to me about morals.
However, my brother who is 18 is always dating different girls and my father pats him in the back and says 'that's my boy!'. He's disgusting, he can't even form real relationships and he comes with this talk. He should be the one being careful. My grandmother says that deep down he's a good man but I can only see a man who sees women as a piece of meat to stick his thing inside.
when you're daddy's little girl you have different standards than your brother. it's not right, but there you have it. he's still your dad and there's a good person somewhere inside of him, even if he's a dirty old man.
I dint think he should be giving you advice because of how you described him, but no matter what you are his little girl and he doesn't want boys treating you the way he and your brother treat girls.
you should feel uncomfortable! You are a teenage girl who is living with 2 men who treat women as tools for there pleasure! You should talk to your father immediately about this. Tell him how you feel and that you do not feel comfortable when he gives you sex advice. You were using protection and good job 4 that. But you should also remember he is your father and he is 1 of those men who just don't listen to there own advice. Give him some advice to that is horrible what he is doing to women. I don't think it is good for you to even see your father. Remember be safe when you have sex. I am not telling you to stop becks I had sex when I was 15. So talk to your father he loves you and will want to listen!
Your father sounds pretty sexist, based on how he treats you and your brother differently regarding your sex lives. He's probably proud of your brother for being like him, and considers it almost flattering. But because he looks at women so differently (as sexual objects) he probably doesn't want to hear about you having sex because he knows firsthand how women can be treated badly when sex is involved in a young relationship. In my honest opinion (and I'm 16 and just left a relationship because it ended up being based around sex) I don't think parents should give out sex advice to their kids. There are certain things you just shouldn't talk about with your parents. It's one thing for him to tell you to be safe and use protection, because that's a given, but to get into specifics isn't very fatherly. Hope I was helpful.
I think he handled himself pretty well with you. It is not easy confronting your daughter about sex. All he said was to be careful, and that you were a little young.. how is that hypocritical?
He's an adult, however probably shouldn't be bringing a bunch of ladies home. But it's his life. And don't assume these women don't just want a hot night too, maybe they are also using him. Perhaps you can tell him that you hear his "private" moments, and it's really not appropriate for you to be hearing in the house.
Sounds like you are upset he can't have a long term relationship, but that has nothing to do with you having sex.
I'd say you're right to be angry. A father who respected women then yeah there would be no problem with giving sex advice but considering everything you've said about him, I don't blame you for being cross with him. At the end of the day you're always Daddy's Little Girl and he always wants to protect you. But I don't blame you, that is really hypocritical and sexist too.
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