My mom is really mad at me for giving my sister sex advice, but is she right?

I'm with your mom. It's OK to tell her to use protection, but at no point did you tell her that sex at 14 is wrong in the first place. That's why these discussions should be left to parents, not children.

I've got 2 younger sisters (ones 14) we don't get on but if we did i would have told her to wait til it was legal.

but you did the right thing telling her to stay safe, your parents should appreciate that

Your mom is right, but telling your sister about protection was a good thing.

However, she's too young to have sex. Your mom should be the one giving her advise

No, I think you did the right thing too. Your sister came to you for practical advice, and you gave it to her. If you'd gone all moral brigade on her, and told her that sex at 14 is "wrong" (which it isn't really, if the person feels ready), would she have listened to you? Or would she have done it anyway, possibly without protection?

Yeah yeah, expected the thumbs down, but it's true. Telling a teenager "wait till marriage" isn't going to automatically make them wait. Plus there's nothing wrong with NOT waiting, as long as you know what you're doing. It's better that your sister has the facts. And look at it this way - she didn't choose to talk your mom about it, did she? Considering her reaction, I'm not really surprised.

I don't think you were right to do that. I think you should have told your sister to wait. you should have used yourself as an example. I am a parent too but I wouldn't want my little sister to be doing that stuff at such a young age.

this is difficult. you weren't wrong to give her advice, as teenagers need advice like this, and if your sister was thinking about having sex, it is better she is well clued up on it, rather than her making a stupid mistake. of course your mum has the right to feel she is too young, as 14 is below the legal age, but explain to her your reasoning for telling her about sex. tell her you were being informative as opposed to encouraging her to have sex.

good luck x

No she is not right. Your sister did not ask you if she should wait until marriage. You cannot just tell her not to do it, end of discussion. She is a little too young to be having sex but having someone to come to is what she needs. Getting pregnant in college may not have been ideal but it was not the end of the world. Throwing things like that into your face is not what a mother should be doing. You were an adult.

Yes, shes right. You aren't completely wrong for giving her advice on it but at 14?! Its not okay for a 14 year old to have sex even with protection, why would you tell her that? Unless you want her to end up like you too.

I agree with your mom. I mean, yes it is right to tell her about protection and all of that but she is only 14, you should tell her to wait for a while. I mean, even protection fails. Do you want to be an aunt anytime soon?

You should talk to her again and tell her about your mistakes. I mean, you should use that to teach her. You had a hard time, do you want her to go through the same thing?

i think that you were in the right, ya she is kinda young but if she has questions about it at least shes coming to someone in the family to ask for advice, if she thinks shes ready to have sex then threes really nothing any one can tell her to change her mind, i mean she is 14 that's when things start happening, i would just ignore your mom, it sounds like your sister looks up to you so just be there for any questions she has

i don't think that you were wrong in giving her the advice. i think you were wrong on agreeing with her acting on your advice. she is very young and should have her mind on activities and school. when she came to you for advice you should have used yourself as an example. you are a college drop out. your sister could end up being a junior high school drop out!!!!

your mom is right

sex is never right without marriage

it was better for her to ask you and get your advise about using protection instead of her doing it on her own and not using protection and ending up with an std.

This crap that your mom's talking about is CORRECT, so it's not crap. It's knowledge. There is a big difference. Guys who talk sweet at 14, or any teenage age are full of crap. That's what she means. Listen to her. She knows what she's talking about.

You are half right.

You are right in telling her to stay safe, you aren't in not reminding her what happened to you.

I wish i had a older sister. no body tells me nothing at all.

you were right the mum is an idiot... make her loom at yahoo answers and learn what teens are like,


Then make her get a UK TV series called skins (most realistic portrayal of teen life ever)

Rent out the entire American Pie series

Then movies like Kids, Adulthood, Kidulthood.

And hand her this


SUCCESSFUL SEX ED COUNTRIES STATS AND INFO

http://www.advocatesforyouth.org/publications/factsheet/fsest.htm
http://www.stats.govt.nz/products-and-services/Articles/teen-Sep03.htm
http://www.channel4.com/learning/microsites/L/lifestuff/content/up_close/letstalksex/index.html


UIf you note unlike all the others I have links and statistics and studies on how different countries attitudes on sex ed affect teen pregnancy rates


Do any other have such info? no I do that makes me right and them wrong.

You can point out that its better to work her way up bit by bit over the next two years. Same principle as learning to snowboard... You dint try cliff jumping on day one... workedJDour way up and that working up is fun say say sex is not bad but get good at beginner stuff first as you are pretty young...

That way sex will be better. The rest is cool but you need to go into far more depth. Look at this site for guidelines ie how many mess up up using condoms , who dont realise pulling out does not owrk and even it going in for .00001 seconds is still sex, sperm goies through panites, survives in air etc etf