Sex advice needed! Why can't I get my boyfriend to come during sex?

Pirate's Lady · #1 (**permalink**) 08-20-2010, 05:47 PM

I was a virgin before I started going out with my boyfriend and we've had sex and there's nothing wrong there, I'm relaxed, he's relaxed, we engage in foreplay, oral sex etc. and we've tried using lube too.
But no matter what, and even after almost and hour of trying, he doesn't come.
We usually switch positions, mostly missionary and cowgirl, to try and help the situation but nothing seems to tip him over the edge so to speak.
Please help, I feel bad as I'm getting all the pleasure Lil.

Do we need to try for longer? Different positions? Additional techniques?
What can I do to help him come?
Thanks

Whiner · #2 (**permalink**) 08-25-2010, 05:47 PM

Well to help him 'cum' you should just do it with you're hands.

tima p · #3 (**permalink**) 08-29-2010, 05:47 PM

Different positions, try having you both lay on your sides and have him behind you, that ones kinky... also, scream more.. make noise, and talk dirty, its a complete turn on, and have him feel you up a bit more during. And if you can take it, go as long as it takes

Just Ask :-) · #4 (**permalink**) 08-30-2010, 05:47 PM

lots of times the guy focuses too much on the gal and holds back himself...he needs to just take you (not necessary on the bed) and have his way.

Have you tried lying sideways with your back towards him? If that works, consider moving to Greek/anal then eventually back to K9/doggier.

I Get Delirious · #5 (**permalink**) 09-04-2010, 05:47 PM

In my opinion he should see a doctor may be that will help

stevenzupic · #6 (**permalink**) 09-09-2010, 05:47 PM

You say "he's relaxed, I'm relaxed", but clearly he isn't.
All too often guys focus on the girl as there's such stigma attached to ensuring she enjoys it that he holds back himself to ensure he satisfies her. You say you are getting all the pleasure, so at least his techniques are working for you. If you can manage it without it hurting, try going for longer, or maybe once you've got what you want, try using your hands on him. Failing that, suggest that you two m********* in front of each other and you can learn how he likes it done. Also for almost all guys it is a huge turn on to see their ff enjoying herself, so even though you are enjoying it, so it's not faking as such, slightly exaggerate your enjoyment (be a bit vocal) - it will spur him on.
I have never c*** from sex and wish to god that my ex would have tried to accommodate a few routine changes into our sex life.